How to recognize them emotional vampires who live off your emotional & why.
Them small digs to make you feel bad about yourself
It's like every time you turn around that person just have something to say to try to push your buttons.Or that one person who act like the lost something and they are looking in things as if it's there.
Ex1 : Blue when to stay with her mother, because she was coming back after 25 years of living overseas, so she needed a place to live till she found her own place. She gave her mother over the years money to help pay her bills and get a car so she can get around. For 25 years she was sending money to her mother. Then the time came for Blue and she needed help from her mother. She just needed a place to stay why she finds her own place and get her new business going in the states live she had overseas. One month of staying with her mother and the mother boyfriend was getting to Blue. Every time she turns around someone was in her room looking for money or something they can use. Every other day it was They need this or that. Then the boyfriend put something of his in Blue car. Then had her mother ask her, has she seen his watch. Blue told her mother no. Then her mother said can you check your car. Blue ask why? he has never been in my car. then from the inflection of her computer, she saw him smiling. Blue know what time it was. she turns around and said if it's in my car it's mine now and told her mother if it's in my car he put it there and you need to go talk to him about the games. Her mother came back and told Blue her the dogs couldn't stay there no more. Blue look at her mother and said not again will you put a man before me again. Blue was trying to pay for her mother love, but her mother really then want Blue thereafter they learn Blue didn't have any more money. and her boyfriend would do little digs from day to day trying to push her buttons. Blue kept on working, but the day Blue was out letting people know who she was and telling them about her business, her mother was calling people out their name or doing things to make people ask why would they work with her. She was there for 3 months. she pack all her stuff and move out and on her way out the boyfriend put a rag in the sink and let the water go over the sink. trying to make like Blue did it and her mother believe it. He tried to cuz her out, Blue walk up to them and said I wish you would, I am not her. Her mother said get out we didn't have any problem till you came you need to get yourself together I feel sorry for you. Blue look her mother in her face and said for this day you are dead and got her car and drove off. two months when by and they learn where she was and drove there. Blue told them to leave I don't talk to ghosts. before they came her mother told everyone Blue was crazy and more with her boyfriend. They told her she wasn't going to be anything, Blue hear that before and she when overseas and became her own boss. Now she's in the state just working and saving. After little over a year of working and sleeping on someone floor. Blue hit big. and the 1st thing she does was go change her name. The week before her name was to change everyone calling her, your mother is in the hospital, She answers with why are you calling me. My mother has been dead for over a year now. Blue for really you need to get here. Blue answer I need to go now sorry or your bad times. please don't call me about it again.months go by and Blue is building her Dreamhouse and her business is growing big and followers came in from everywhere.
You are like, what is this you are reading right. what does it have to do with Emotional Vampires?
Everything!
For years Blue was being used by her mother and her new boyfriend for the season she was in.
The Narcissist: If you don't do things their way, they become punishing, withholding, or cold. They don't care about you they only care about themselves and what they can get from you. if you have nothing to give they will drive you crazy like it's you and not them.
Ex2: Chris has a girlfriend he loves her and does everything for her. He doesn't have much, but he made a house into a home and all the bills are paid. They go places in the summer for vacation. They had four kids, but turn out only one was his, and she tells 5 others one child was theirs and she needs money for daycare or for this. As she plays them all for money. Then the day comes and everyone learns the truth. As she tells each man, it's them and not her. then run to her friends telling them stories like he just doesn't want to take care his kids and she doesn't know what to do. As if he made some men who walk up to her asking to see their kids. Only one man really didn't care because he was married, but as he was standing he like this bitch need to give me my money back. Then that day comes when they all in court and learn they all being played for 12 years. and the judge asked her how is she the victim when she was the one who knew the truth and was getting money for 4 kids from 6 men and only one child is one of the men father. For years she got away with her lies about her child father, then kids ask, who are they.
but she leaves town and leaves the kids to ask her friend to drive her to the airport
where she moves to and new town and play the victim of why she is homeless and need help.
The Victim: "poor-me" attitude. The world is against them, it's the reason for their unhappiness.
The Controller: They often start sentences with "You know what you need?" and then proceed to tell you.
The Constant Talker: These people aren't interested in your feelings. They are only concerned with themselves.
The Drama Queen: One week he had the flu and "almost died." Next, his car was towed, again!
The thing is they need you more then you need them.
They need to use you up or break you down keeping you in their little circle. because they don't believe and they don't want you to believe in anything. when they are around its drama. they need something. They lie on you when it's was them. or lie on you because they don't want anyone to see you, as they want to keep you for yourself. When you get around someone you will say to yourself here we go, you pray please let them be on their good side
You always fear that mouth of their or them asking for something. That shit can turn you into Emotional Vampires as you think on all the shit you put up with and it's all you can talk about. Don't let them turn you, just walk away and stay away. They can't change, but you can. See your dreams and stop seeing them or talking about them. unless you are teaching someone or a group about Emotional Vampires. Just change their name so you don't feel yourself moving down that Emotional Hex.
keep in mind when they fuck up
they try to give you something
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